Healthy friendships: how to make, keep, and end friendships
Solid friendships are vital for your wellbeing, providing a safety net that helps you navigate life’s challenges and overcome isolation and loneliness. Looking to build new connections but not sure where to start? Read our tips on how to make friends and meet new people.
Of course, friendships aren't always effortless; they require energy, communication and sometimes tough decisions. They will also evolve as you move through different life stages, so it’s good to know ways to cope with changing friendships. Being a great mate also means showing up when things get tough. If you’re worried about someone, our collection on helping friends is full of resources to guide you. You can start by learning how to ask a friend if they’re okay in a way that feels natural and safe.
Not every friendship is right for you, though. Sometimes, you might find yourself needing to deal with a toxic friendship dynamic that no longer feels supportive, or learning how to deal with peer pressure so you can stay true to yourself while staying connected.
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Frequently asked questions about friendships
A good friend respects your boundaries, listens without judgement, and makes you feel safe to be yourself. These relationships are built on mutual trust and support, where you both feel valued and heard. While no friendship is perfect, the best ones are those that contribute positively to your wellbeing. Learn more about what makes a good friend.
Making new friends can feel daunting, especially during big life changes like finishing school or starting a new job. The key is to put yourself in situations where you can meet people with shared interests, like joining a club or volunteering. Remember to be patient with yourself – building a connection takes time. Check out these tips on how to make friends and meet new people.
A toxic friendship often feels one-sided, draining, or even manipulative. You might feel like you’re walking on eggshells or that your friend doesn't respect your boundaries. Recognising these signs is the first step in deciding whether to set firmer limits or move on. Read more about identifying and dealing with a toxic friendship.
It’s okay to speak up when a friend’s actions have impacted you. Using ‘I’ statements like ‘I felt hurt when…’ can help you express your feelings without sounding accusatory, and choosing a calm time to talk can make the conversation more productive. For a step-by-step approach, explore our full guide on how to tell a friend they’ve hurt you.
Losing a friend can hurt just as much as a romantic break-up. It’s normal to feel a range of emotions, from sadness and anger to relief. Give yourself permission to grieve the loss and focus on self-care as you adjust to the change. Read our guide on how to cope when a friendship ends.