5 steps to talking to someone you trust

Opening up to someone about what you’re going through can be really tough, but it’s one of the best things you can do for your mental health. Here’s our simple step-by-step guide to starting the conversation with someone who can support you.

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1. Decide who to talk to

Think about who makes you feel safe and supported. It could be a friend, parent, carer, teacher or mentor. It could also be a counsellor, psychologist or another type of mental health professional.

2: Plan what to say

Before you start the conversation, take some time to reflect on how you’re feeling. Writing down your thoughts can help organise them and make it easier to explain what you’re dealing with. Decide if you want advice, support, or just someone to listen to you. 

3. Find the right time

Choose a moment when neither of you is rushed or distracted. It doesn’t have to be face-to-face – a phone call, video chat or even a message can work if that feels easier.

4. Go at your own pace

Speak in a way that feels comfortable to you. Using 'I' statements like ‘I’ve been feeling overwhelmed’ can make it easier to express yourself clearly. Take your time and don’t feel pressured to say everything at once. Take a look at our 3 steps to better communication if you want some tips. 

5. Keep trying.

If the conversation doesn’t go how you hoped, don’t give up. Keep looking for someone who can support you. 

If you’re unsure about where to go next, check out our guide on how to get help for mental health or take our quiz to figure out the right kind of support for you. 

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