4 tips for navigating queer life in a regional, rural or remote town

There's a lot to love about living in the country, including having easier access to nature and being part of a tight-knit community. But for LGBTQIA+ people, life in a small town isn’t always easy. 

We asked a few young people for their top tips on navigating queer life in regional, rural and remote areas.

1. You're not alone, even if it feels that way

Being LGBTQIA+ in rural areas can be challenging. You may struggle with:

• feeling isolated and lonely

• not being able to relate to lots of other people

• feeling like you’re the only queer person in your community and/or that you don’t have access to a strong queer community

• having limited access to appropriate sexual health, mental health and gender-affirming care services

• finding it hard to date because of limited options in your area or because of fear that you will be talked about.

Even though it may not seem like it, there are lots of LGBTQIA+ people living in the country. It might take a little extra effort to build your community, but it’s definitely possible.

Start by checking out Minus18's youth directory to find services, youth groups and peer support groups in your area. You can also join Minus18’s moderated Discord server to chat with other young people during fortnightly online events.

2. Use LGBTQIA+ support services

Though they might try their best, your support network may not always understand what you’re going through. Sometimes you just need to chat with someone who gets it. At those times, try reaching out to a queer-specific service. They are designed to support LGBTQIA+ people, and are often staffed by members of the queer community.

Check out our full guide to LGBTQIA+ support services to find what's available in your state.

LGBTIQ+ mental health support

QLife is a free and anonymous helpline for LGBTIQ+ people and their loved ones. Available every day from 3pm to midnight.

Get help

3. Coming out can build your community 

It’s normal to be nervous about coming out. You might be worried that you will upset some loved ones or even lose some friends. But coming out can also help you to build a stronger support network, because the people who support you will understand you better. Even if you only have one person standing by your side, that person loves you for exactly who you are.

You might even find others who are going through the same thing as you. Or you could help other people in your community to come out and find support.

'Now that I’ve been out for some time and am open about my sexuality, I can be an advocate for the community and can support and help others.’ - Sarah, 20, Berri

Coming out is completely your choice. If you're questioning your sexuality or aren't ready to come out, that's not a problem – there’s no rush. Get some more advice on understanding and talking about your sexuality. 

4. You do you

Your experience of discovering and accepting your identity might look different from what you see online or in the media. That's okay! There's no handbook for being queer and no ‘right way’ to explore who you are.