What is physical abuse?

Physical abuse in a relationship often starts gradually, such as with a push or a slap, and then becomes progressively worse over time. Physical violence is always illegal. If you have been physically abused, there are things you can do to get support.

This can help if:

• you feel afraid of your partner all the time

• you steer clear of certain topics to avoid making your partner angry

• you feel like you can’t do anything right, or that you’re walking on eggshells because of their anger and rage.

What is physical abuse?

Physical abuse basically involves a person using physical force against you, which causes, or could cause, you harm.

Types of physical abuse

Physical abuse can involve any of the following violent acts:

• scratching or biting

• pushing or shoving

• slapping

• kicking

• choking or strangling

• throwing things

• force feeding or denying you food

• using weapons or objects that could hurt you

• physically restraining you (such as pinning you against a wall, floor, bed, etc.)

• reckless driving

• other acts that hurt or threaten you.

Many survivors of physical abuse say that the violence started with just a slap or a push, but then became more intense over time.

What to remember if you've experienced physical abuse

An abuser will often blame someone else, such as the victim, for saying or doing something that ‘caused’ their violent behaviour. They also might say their behaviour was due to the influence of alcohol or drugs or feeling stressed or frustrated.

It’s also quite common for the abuser to feel remorse and to apologise after an assault. They may beg for forgiveness and promise they’ll never do it again. They will quite often sincerely regret what they’ve done, which makes it more difficult for the victim of the assault to leave the relationship.

It's important to remember that physical abuse is never your fault. Their violent behaviour is always their responsibility, not yours. Whatever they say, abuse is never acceptable.

What to do if you’ve been physically abused

If you’ve experienced physical abuse, it’s essential that you seek help straight away.

If you’re currently fearful or you believe you’re in danger, contact the emergency services on 000 immediately. There are also a number of domestic violence services around Australia that can offer support.